And finally, Day 3’s theme in Three Vices is Hear No Evil.
Similar to See No Evil, it’s easy to take on one negative aspect and immediately have your whole view point changed. I find that once I hear someone complain about someone else, I try to look for what annoyed them. This ties in with the gossiping thing, because hoarding other people’s slightly scandalous stories are just as damaging as spreading them, even though I do take pleasure in being the keeper of a lot of secrets. I wonder if these posts have made people more wary of telling me?
I think, though, of the three vices, this one affects me the least. I don’t tend to judge very heavily - my theory is if you do something I don’t do, that’s your choice, I don’t have to do it though - it’s only when I internalize the problem that it starts affecting how I see people.
So, to explain that, it’s like if someone is annoying ME and I noticed it myself, then it is internalized, but if someone tells me that so-and-so is annoying THEM and I see it, but I’m not really affected, then it’s just an observation.
Tomorrow is the last day! WOW! ONE WHOLE FREAKING YEAR! Will you miss me?
It’s easy to find flaws in people, and then everything that they say and do from there is in light of this flaw. Wow, that person can be really sexist sometimes - everything that they say as a sexist connotation. God, could her laugh be more annoying? Every time she laughs, mentally hate her a little.
Things like that.
Instead of doing that, I should try to see the good stuff, so that everything they do is being colored by the good. She’s such a good listener! Even though she doesn’t say much back, I know that she has absorbed what I said and will remember it. He is always ready to help - sure, he is always around, but you should feel safe knowing that when you do really need him, you won’t even have to ask.
So the last 3 photos before my final day is in a series. Wow, I actually did a series!
The series focuses on ways that I should act, and yet don’t.
Today’s theme is Speak No Evil.
I find that I am more and more prone to gossiping - whereas before I used to just hear and hoard the information, now I’m starting to dish it out too! Don’t worry, I still keep secrets, but there are times when I do leak a secret to someone of no consequence to the original source.
And I really shouldn’t gossip, as fun as it is, because I cannot of course be the perfect determiner of whether passing along the information is ultimately harmful or not.
I’ll try my best to gossip less about other people. (As to hearing gossip, I’ll cover that later.)