It’s easy to find flaws in people, and then everything that they say and do from there is in light of this flaw. Wow, that person can be really sexist sometimes - everything that they say as a sexist connotation. God, could her laugh be more annoying? Every time she laughs, mentally hate her a little.
Things like that.
Instead of doing that, I should try to see the good stuff, so that everything they do is being colored by the good. She’s such a good listener! Even though she doesn’t say much back, I know that she has absorbed what I said and will remember it. He is always ready to help - sure, he is always around, but you should feel safe knowing that when you do really need him, you won’t even have to ask.